1. Love.
Love is many a thing, from a feeling that might be selfish, to a service done in secret. Love can be the crest of
an emotion, or it can be the toil of assistance.
Love can be forgiveness, or it can be judgment, a balm to soothe, or a surgical knife. Love can be decidedly blind or
painfully seeing—praise or rebuke.
If love wore one expression, if its hands were always open, if it gave and never retained, then it could exist as a sentiment without thought. But true love places a supreme demand on the resources of wisdom, for manifestations of love are as varied as human need.If the end of love were passivity, the absence of conflict; if it laid aside principles for peace, laid aside conflict for cordiality, it would not be a virtue. It would be vice.
That love sometimes leads one into desperate sacrifice, with no certain promise of return, that it requires trading one goodness—your own—for another, makes it as rare as manifestations of deity.
Love must be ready to embrace or to refrain from embracing, to give or to deny. It requires expenditure and vigilance. Love must be ever alert—a delicate, shifting
If love wore one expression, if its hands were always open, if it gave and never retained, then it could exist as a sentiment without thought. But true love places a supreme demand on the resources of wisdom, for manifestations of love are as varied as human need.If the end of love were passivity, the absence of conflict; if it laid aside principles for peace, laid aside conflict for cordiality, it would not be a virtue. It would be vice.
That love sometimes leads one into desperate sacrifice, with no certain promise of return, that it requires trading one goodness—your own—for another, makes it as rare as manifestations of deity.
Love must be ready to embrace or to refrain from embracing, to give or to deny. It requires expenditure and vigilance. Love must be ever alert—a delicate, shifting
balance of law and grace. The final measure of love is not the cloak of emotion it wears, but the service it renders. Certain love is not found in the good feelings but in the high cost to the one loving.
Rather than say, “Children need love,” we must define the acts of love by which children will realize their full potential. For the sentiment of love can be as harmful as that of hate. As all the Law is contained in this one commandment, “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself,” so parenting is nothing more than the activity of love. But as the law meticulously defines the expressions of love, so the works of love must be defined.
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Rather than say, “Children need love,” we must define the acts of love by which children will realize their full potential. For the sentiment of love can be as harmful as that of hate. As all the Law is contained in this one commandment, “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself,” so parenting is nothing more than the activity of love. But as the law meticulously defines the expressions of love, so the works of love must be defined.
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1、爱
爱内涵很多，从一种似乎自私的感觉，到默默的不求回报的付出。爱是情绪的高峰，亦可是付出后的疲乏。
爱是宽恕，亦可是审判，是安慰的香膏，亦可是雕削之刀。爱是决绝的掩面，亦可是忍痛的凝视、或称赞或指责。
如果爱只有一种表情，如果爱的手永远张开，如果爱是给予从不保留，那么爱将会如同一种不经思虑的情感一样存在。但是，真正的爱，极其的需要智慧，因为爱的表现因着人的需求而各式各样。
如果爱的目标是不抵抗，忽视冲突；如果为了和平而放弃原则，放弃冲突追求和睦，爱将不再是美德。这将是罪恶。
那种爱将引领一个人奋不顾身的舍己，却没有任何回报的确信，这需要付出你自己的良善，使之罕见如同神迹。
爱必须准备接受或不接受，给予或拒绝。爱需要付出和警觉。爱需要始终警觉---轻巧的在律法和恩典间平衡。最终衡量爱，不是表达出来的感情，而是付出的服侍。爱断然不是从良好的感觉中找到，而是体现在为所爱的人付出的高昂代价之中。
我们应当界定爱的行为，靠此孩子将认识到他们的全部潜力，而不是简单的说“孩子们需要爱”。因为爱的情感可能同恨的情感一样有害。正如律法包含在“爱人如己”这一条诫命之中一样，养育孩子归到底就是爱的行为。律法小心的界定爱的表现，所以爱的工作需要界定。
爱内涵很多，从一种似乎自私的感觉，到默默的不求回报的付出。爱是情绪的高峰，亦可是付出后的疲乏。
爱是宽恕，亦可是审判，是安慰的香膏，亦可是雕削之刀。爱是决绝的掩面，亦可是忍痛的凝视、或称赞或指责。
如果爱只有一种表情，如果爱的手永远张开，如果爱是给予从不保留，那么爱将会如同一种不经思虑的情感一样存在。但是，真正的爱，极其的需要智慧，因为爱的表现因着人的需求而各式各样。
如果爱的目标是不抵抗，忽视冲突；如果为了和平而放弃原则，放弃冲突追求和睦，爱将不再是美德。这将是罪恶。
那种爱将引领一个人奋不顾身的舍己，却没有任何回报的确信，这需要付出你自己的良善，使之罕见如同神迹。
爱必须准备接受或不接受，给予或拒绝。爱需要付出和警觉。爱需要始终警觉---轻巧的在律法和恩典间平衡。最终衡量爱，不是表达出来的感情，而是付出的服侍。爱断然不是从良好的感觉中找到，而是体现在为所爱的人付出的高昂代价之中。
我们应当界定爱的行为，靠此孩子将认识到他们的全部潜力，而不是简单的说“孩子们需要爱”。因为爱的情感可能同恨的情感一样有害。正如律法包含在“爱人如己”这一条诫命之中一样，养育孩子归到底就是爱的行为。律法小心的界定爱的表现，所以爱的工作需要界定。
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